It really doesn’t take you asking to surmise, what your lover might need…or at least for you to realize they might need something you are not providing. Beyond the skills you bring to the bedroom, what sex toys you buy batteries for, what porn you might download for a little couple viewing, the person you’re dating is going to need something’s to settle their mind, even if all you are doing is free dating and you and your partner have other partners.
It’s best to face doubts, fears and assumptions head-on, be honest, communicate and be kind in your dating.
First and foremost you need to come to see your lover’s questions as an insight to what you may or may not be giving them. Certainly you cannot be someone else’s self-esteem police, but we have to consider that even in the best of circumstances, even when we know somebody for a long while, even when a relationship seems to be progressing swimmingly and all parts of it are firing on seeming all pistons, still the two people in a couple are strangers to one another. Think hard on this the next time your lover asks you for an update on your feelings or an insight to where the relationship might be heading. We never truly know who we are going to get in our dating, even if we cull them out of a large population and get to know them for a time.
Sometimes what we have in our head is better off staying there, at least with some people we’re dating. Sometimes our fantasies are made real and they are not only too much for our lover but sometimes ourselves with that lover. And though we might think we have found the perfect match in someone who agrees to give us all we need in bed, sometimes all we need is not want we really want at that time.
When heterosexual people are out there dating, communication can sometimes be a little bit difficult as men and women don’t always understand each other. In fact, men and women can seem very silly and ridiculous to each other at times. Men and women prioritize things differently and they communicate completely differently. When they first start dating and they’re not yet familiar with each other, there can sometimes be some misunderstandings.
Dating in the age of the internet has become almost unrecognizable from the way dating used to be years ago. The internet is bringing a lot of people together, people who probably never would have met otherwise because they wouldn’t have ever just run into each other in everyday life. People are getting together these days, even if they live in different countries that aren’t close to each other.
A little advance planning will help turn a connection made on a personals site into success and more of a relationship or at least a casual intimate connection. Say for example one met someone on a free dating site and they have agreed to go out for coffee. What happens when the beginnings are a success but he or she is not ready to go home with one yet? How does one extend the date into a longer adventure?
If one plans ahead, one can check the local entertainment listings or the free paper and find other things going on in the area. Is there a concert or other evening event they might like to go too? Very often, mapping applications or social smart phone aps will give great suggestions too — look up the cafe or wherever one is starting out and ask for other entertaining options in the area. Find a great pizza place or a popular night club playing a kind of music both will enjoy and plan ahead for the success of the date. (more…)
Many of us find the idea of making use of the many different Personals sites on the Internet to be a little scary and intimidating. We worry about making contact with people we do not know at all, and also what type of people we will find out there in the land of cyber dating and romance. (more…)
One of the most often underestimated Dating strategies is activity. Just making the Dating experience an active one where you and your partner do something together rather than just sitting and eating and watching a movie is one of the most effective ways to really bond with that person. Whether your looking for some casual sex or something more the best way to go about getting it is to be active with your date.
It can be relatively easy to make an initial connection with someone new, especially thanks to the ease of using free dating sites, which let us browse from the comfort of our homes through many people’s profiles. And first dates sometimes fly by as we get to know each other. But what do we do to ensure that a second date turns into many more and engenders a long and successful dating relationship?
This is a time to open up to the potential match and see how compatible the two really are. One should choose a comfortable location for the date where both will feel at ease. A coffee shop may be a good idea. Many people enjoy bars, but be sure to select one that is not overly noisy or chaotic so that conversation is possible. The goal here is not to get trashed on booze but to loosen up and get to know better the other person and let them get to know one better too. This might be an opportunity to take them to a picnic in a secluded park as well, enjoying the great out doors, the privacy of each other’s company and more.
Many of us inflate ourselves a bit in our personals profiles but now is the time to let all this drop. In surveys of what makes for successful relationships, people consistently say that they wish to discover common views and interests on a second date before turning that into a third and more. Perhaps its not the time to admit everything, like a taste for especially weird adult videos, but it is a time to drop much of the mask. Don’t put on a show, just share what one loves and one’s passions, one’s views and beliefs a little bit more. And at the end of the date, be honest about the prospects for the future. don’t lead anyone on, that is just rude.
It’s easy to feel an intense amount of pressure in the dating scene. We want to find our one true love, or at least someone special we know will be there to come home to every night. Sometimes we are under additional pressure from our friends or our family who want to know when they can come to a wedding or expect the grand kids to arrive! But none of this really should mean anything to us in our present moments. While any relationship has the potential to turn into something more serious if it works out, our focus should be on fun and free dating. We should be having a good time, enjoying the people we meet and taking each moment for what it is. Rather than worrying about whether the person is the right one to be with forever, let’s focus on whether they are the right one for us to be with right now.
When we approach someone we are interested in, whether in person or on a personals site, rather then spending every minute second guessing ourselves about whether it’s the right move or anticipating rejection, go into it with confidence and a smile. Paying another person a good complement early in a first date is always a good thing to do. Show them that one has been paying attention to them and is interested in who they are. One thing that happens when we get too caught up in the future is we forget about potentials for the present and we have trouble listening. Show that we are listening by focusing on what the other person says and then responding, asking interested questions about the topic at hand.
Maybe it is a little bit zen philosophy, but by staying in the present moment we will be able to better enjoy our dates and connect with more people successfully, resulting in better intimacy and more hot sex.
Your relationship has ended and after some time of healing you’re out dating again. You want to start fresh and begin anew without the person who caused you pain and suffering before. But how do you do this when you keep dwelling on the past? Each new person you meet is compared to the one before. Worst of all in some close knit social circles one may even be dating people that already know one’s ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend and therefore may have notions about one that one would not like. Even without this, one may be engaging in damaging comparisons that keep one from seeing the other person clearly.
First off, break off and find new people to connect with. It may not be a good idea to date from within one’s circle of friends but instead many people find it better and less drama inducing to look for new people one is not connected too. This can be hard in small towns, or even large cities where one may not know where to start. That’s where personals sites are beneficial, allowing one to draw from a much wider pool of people than one could ever hope to find through in person socialization, and allowing one to get away from the incestuous social circles that plague many of us in seeking relationships.
Then when one meets someone from the dating site, it’s important to start clean and fresh. Don’t assume they will be just like one’s previous partners even if one detects similarities. And on early or first dates don’t talk about the past. Don’t vent or compare. Instead make sure to emphasize the good things in life, the things that make one happy and talk about hopes and plans for the future. Later on there will be plenty of time to share in each other’s baggage and hurts, but for now focus on what is good and attract someone new.