It’s not always so easy to get out or up online to facilitate dating. To be part of the single for singles brigade sometimes it takes time in searching as well as determining what exactly you want. But finding the right site, the right club, becoming part of the right community, searching your heart and mind for what you need will set you on your way to marching with all those other people who want to date, have a good time, be part of a hook-up or two or find a soul mate. (more…)
Most adults have had a past with at least one person in which they have been or are currently on/off. As lovers, friends, mates, there are simply those relationships we have all been involved with or court currently that lead us through a roller coaster of emotions, socio-situations and usually a fair amount of mind-bending sex, all predicated on the on/off again nature of the interaction with the other person, Sometimes humorous, other times tragic, lasting weeks, months even years, the on/off affair sometimes informs a couple’s life so deeply that neither person ever gets on getting on with other mature love relationships that might indeed last.
Fucking each other and happy as clams one moment, hateful the next with promises of never returning to share a bed, the habit of the on/off love affair is sometimes all partners have. Sometimes an obsession, very nearly a fetish this kind of loving zaps men and women of their strength and resolve. Assured of last times, enduring locust-like returns, last-minute clutch and grabs of desperate love-making, the excuses of late-night texts or Facebook friend-ing, the stuff of these overly dramatic affairs are enough to drive couples to madness, but in the end this is what their on/off again affair has always been about.
Youth might truly be wasted on the young but these knock-out drag-out long lasting affairs see us through our younger years to play well into our maturity. Many a married man and woman look back fondly to their old on/off loves through rose-colored glasses, forgetting the heartache and exhaustion they suffered because of them! The heightened nature of the situation is as much a real component as was the fucking and sucking and this is what keeps the memory alive.
The letting-go is inevitable, but neither partner is usually strong enough to execute it. When love becomes habit it is nearly impossible to break and it s only at the last minute when a new lover enters the fray, a real chance at real love intercedes, that couples might break their cycle. But the excitement of such a destructive affair, while tragic and exhausting, is truly romantic and the on/off couple will never forget what they had even though, in the end, they really didn’t have very much.