Dating For Our Kink January 22, 2012 at 5:14 pm
Sometimes what we have in our head is better off staying there, at least with some people we’re dating. Sometimes our fantasies are made real and they are not only too much for our lover but sometimes ourselves with that lover. And though we might think we have found the perfect match in someone who agrees to give us all we need in bed, sometimes all we need is not want we really want at that time.
Meeting an amiable partner is a wonderful gift and one we should not squander. If we can find some common interest and reveal our kink and our lover can do the same then we should revel in our find. But we need to step cautiously in expressing what it is we exactly want and how we want it…as our new lover is probably doing with us. Making a fantasy a reality but making it a reality with every single person you date, even if they seem open and willing, might not always work out so well.
The problem is, we just can’t plug everyone, no matter how attracted we might be to them, into our deepest desires. Too many times we let the air into the attic of our kink, we take the lid off a fetish or we sit and listen to the guy or girl we’re dating reveal their dark layers and though everyone is in-for-a penny-in-for-a-pound, the fucking is good even, the willingness does not the connection make. For whatever reason some people we’re dating spark our fantasies and others never will…even if they are willing and we so want them to.
Sometimes it is time to keep what we really truly need under wraps in our dating. A fantasy might burn deep and we might troll through most of our dating explorations wanting to make it real but not every partner should be the recipient of every morsel of our sexual honesty nor will they want to be.