Turning Dating Firsts into Seconds September 14, 2011 at 8:38 pm
It can be relatively easy to make an initial connection with someone new, especially thanks to the ease of using free dating sites, which let us browse from the comfort of our homes through many people’s profiles. And first dates sometimes fly by as we get to know each other. But what do we do to ensure that a second date turns into many more and engenders a long and successful dating relationship?
This is a time to open up to the potential match and see how compatible the two really are. One should choose a comfortable location for the date where both will feel at ease. A coffee shop may be a good idea. Many people enjoy bars, but be sure to select one that is not overly noisy or chaotic so that conversation is possible. The goal here is not to get trashed on booze but to loosen up and get to know better the other person and let them get to know one better too. This might be an opportunity to take them to a picnic in a secluded park as well, enjoying the great out doors, the privacy of each other’s company and more.
Many of us inflate ourselves a bit in our personals profiles but now is the time to let all this drop. In surveys of what makes for successful relationships, people consistently say that they wish to discover common views and interests on a second date before turning that into a third and more. Perhaps its not the time to admit everything, like a taste for especially weird adult videos, but it is a time to drop much of the mask. Don’t put on a show, just share what one loves and one’s passions, one’s views and beliefs a little bit more. And at the end of the date, be honest about the prospects for the future. don’t lead anyone on, that is just rude.