Better Movie Dating August 19, 2011 at 8:20 pm
When people are just starting out at dating, very often it seems like a good idea to go to the movies together. Maybe both of you are film buffs or maybe it just seems like a non-threatening way to meet another person and interact with them for the first time. These can be good reasons, but its important to keep in mind that the benefit can also be a drawback. A movie takes place in the dark and one is not supposed to talk or interact overly. While many of us have teenage fantasies of making out in the movie theater, this is not likely to happen if you just meet straight up after connecting by the personals and expect to get to know each other for the first time at the same time. Any physical overtures may be met with awkwardness and there’s little chance to talk. So how to help?
It’s not that the movie date is the worst idea for people one meets on a dating site or anywhere else for that matter, just that it needs some enhancement. First off, be careful in selecting what movie one goes too. Obviously we don’t mean you should check out adult videos together, at least on the first date. But more seriously, consider the subject matter of the film. Horror movies are best left to two horror movie fans and even then may not be good to start. Action films may only interest some people. It might be a good idea to select from their interests or look at potential movies together, perhaps using the message feature that is part of free dating websites.
The next step is to make sure there is an after the movie portion. Go out for coffee or food together or drinks, but choose somewhere you can have conversations. Ask specific questions about the movie, and use this as a jumping off into further conversations.