Start Dating Your Way Into A Great Relationship March 8, 2011 at 4:06 pm
Whether you’re coming into a personal dating world after a breakup or a divorce or just an extended break from romance, try these tips to get you on the right path to finding and maintaining healthy relationships:
• Learn what you want, and what you don’t. Everyone has some things that are non negotiable. Learn how to make an effective list of deal breakers and what you need to know before dropping your drawers.
• Prepare yourself for a new relationship by doing things to declutter your soul. It’s time to start letting go of all those old love letters and photos that remind you of heartache. Start looking toward the future.
• Desperation doesn’t look good on anyone. No matter how desperate you may feel, rushing into things at the first sign of chemistry is not likely to end well. Think it through because something that seems different is a lot different from it actually being perfect.
Attract the right kind of people:
• You are a human being, not a product in a display window. Don’t go out there trying to sell who you are.
• Relax and know that there is enough love out there for all of us and plenty to go around and around. So smile! You don’t have to compete with anyone.
• Put off the urge to merge until you’ve found out some vital things; what are their relationship goals? Where do they see you fitting into their framework? Remember, jumping into bed isn’t going to create a foundation if one wasn’t there to begin with.
• You want to aim for balance in the flow between give and take. You bring certain things to the party so what does the other person bring? Knowing this right from the beginning can help you avoid a situation where you’re doing all the giving and they’re doing all the taking.
• Aim to be with someone who likes the kind of person you really are.
Be your best self:
• Take notice to how you act and feel when you’re around the person you like. Do they bring out your best qualities, or do they bring out some strange things you don’t even recognize as being you.
• Safety and integrity are important-don’t compromise on your core values! Use your common sense.