When dating gets a little bit frustrating, as it often will, it can be helpful to take a little bit of a step back to regroup, assess why it’s getting frustrating and try to figure out if we’re doing anything to contribute to things not working the way we had hoped.
When you first venture onto the personals, you usually have no real idea what to expect. You have spent years enduring the real world bar scene in search of relationships and have likely only come to the online world kicking and screaming, figuring it is worth a shot, along with being more than a little tired of hearing all your friends pestering you to give it a shot. You probably have ideas about the personals, many negative, but one thing that may quickly surprise you is how obsessive they can be.
It’s not always so easy to get out or up online to facilitate dating. To be part of the single for singles brigade sometimes it takes time in searching as well as determining what exactly you want. But finding the right site, the right club, becoming part of the right community, searching your heart and mind for what you need will set you on your way to marching with all those other people who want to date, have a good time, be part of a hook-up or two or find a soul mate. (more…)
It really doesn’t take you asking to surmise, what your lover might need…or at least for you to realize they might need something you are not providing. Beyond the skills you bring to the bedroom, what sex toys you buy batteries for, what porn you might download for a little couple viewing, the person you’re dating is going to need something’s to settle their mind, even if all you are doing is free dating and you and your partner have other partners.
It’s best to face doubts, fears and assumptions head-on, be honest, communicate and be kind in your dating.
First and foremost you need to come to see your lover’s questions as an insight to what you may or may not be giving them. Certainly you cannot be someone else’s self-esteem police, but we have to consider that even in the best of circumstances, even when we know somebody for a long while, even when a relationship seems to be progressing swimmingly and all parts of it are firing on seeming all pistons, still the two people in a couple are strangers to one another. Think hard on this the next time your lover asks you for an update on your feelings or an insight to where the relationship might be heading. We never truly know who we are going to get in our dating, even if we cull them out of a large population and get to know them for a time.
The Dating scene is full of those bad boys and nasty girls that makes one’s heart beat a little faster. For men looking for that type of girl this is typically referred to as the Madonna Whore complex. For women they have a James Dena complex. In the fantasy the bad boy can fuck like a racehorse and be as naughty as you want him to be and then get up and go to work. Women believe that the right girl can tame him and make him want to be monogamous. He’s perfectly charming and loyal and when he kisses you your toes curl.
Sure, we seem to have taken to free porn to such a degree that we all almost now see it as a right we have to download what we want when we want it. We disregard industries like porn or the music business bemoaning the literal stealing of their content and simply figure if we can do it then we should. Free is really the best price after all and the advent of digital information made it such that creator and audience became closer…sometimes to the detriment of that creator making money for what he or she creates for their audience. (more…)
We can be as fickle in our choice of dates as we can the sites we find them on. There are so many to search across yet when we are on a good run in our online dating we are on a good run with a site and will come to regard that dating site as the very best one there is. But the truth of the matter is, we are only ever going to champion those sites, clubs, populations where we find success and eschew those places we don’t.
Therefore really, on an objective basis, is one dating site better then another or is it all just how we perceive them? (more…)
The internet has allowed people to connect with other people from all over the world instead of just meeting the people who are in their own little neighborhood. Websites and message boards dedicated to specific hobbies, social networking sites and dating website make it incredibly easy to meet people that share common interests, whether it’s for relationship purposes or not. (more…)
Sometimes what we have in our head is better off staying there, at least with some people we’re dating. Sometimes our fantasies are made real and they are not only too much for our lover but sometimes ourselves with that lover. And though we might think we have found the perfect match in someone who agrees to give us all we need in bed, sometimes all we need is not want we really want at that time.
Guys, when dating a woman kissing is really important. Most ladies don’t like it when the guy has an out of control tongue that is slobbering all over her face. She likes a little control. First kisses should never be too aggressive and the lady shouldn’t feel like a tongue is being stuffed down her throat.
Some women like being kissed until they’re literally out of breath, but most don’t like that as a first kiss. It’s something a guy has to test out a little at a time to see just how far he can go with any aggressive kissing. For first kisses, a lot of ladies like it when a man asks if he can kiss her. Unfortunately not all women like that. Some prefer a guy to take control of the moment and go in for the kiss. (more…)
